"Oh, you're single? I'm sorry"
"You just haven't met 'the one' yet"
"Don't be so jaded . . . not every man is bad"
"Don't worry, there is a soul mate for everyone"
"You WILL find love again, when you least expect it"
"You really need to think about a male role model for Jackson"
"What are you going to do when Jackson leaves home?"
"Your son can't be your best friend"
"Don't you get lonely?"
Among others, these wonderful sentiments have all been offered to me over the past few years, since before I had Jackson.
While I know that every single one came from a place of love . . .
I cannot help but feel a little judged.
Here is the deal.
There is no need to be sorry for assuming that I am married.
I am not at all worried about finding a soul mate.
I do NOT think that all men, or even most men are jerks.
As strange as it may seem, I have more important things happening in my world than looking for love.
My son has SO MANY people that love him, and I ONLY allow positive role models in his life . . . male and female.
When Jackson leaves home, in just under TWO DECADES, I think we can revisit this concern.
My son is not my best friend, but he is my FAVORITE person. That is neither bad, nor unhealthy.
And finally, is being lonely a feeling reserved only for the single? I know several couples that are devastatingly lonely.
I think what I am trying to say, is that my focus is on my son and myself . . . and there is nothing wrong with that.
My life is FULL.
FULL of love from friends and family.
FULL of cloth diapers and potty charts.
FULL of travel receipts and boarding passes.
FULL of tractor videos and toy trains.
FULL of bills to pay and mouths to feed.
FULL of ups and downs, ebbs and flows.
FULL of giggles and cuddles.
My life is FULL, and I am doing just fine.